poetrygarden

    Is a good parant some one who is always there for there child?  Is a good parant some one who teaches right from wrong?  What exactly is a good parant?  What i have thought of as a good parant in the past have turned out not to be so good.

 I myself thought i was a good parant, i talked to my children, i did not swear in front of them, and i was always there, i did not smoke or drink throughout there young lives, i taught them to say please and thank you and to know there place, and most of all i showed them love. Only at the end of a violent relationship i turned to drink, my daughter was a riding instructor and living in a large country house miles away but my son was at home.

  In my alcoholic state i suppose i neglected to give him the support at times he needed, his father took no interest in him as a small child and my son was glad to get away from him. Years later they are pals and i have not seen my son for more than ten years, not even a card from him birthdays or Christmas.

 I nearly died having him, literally so, and only had him because i wanted my daughter to have some one, as i had no other family.

 So what is a good parant?.  I saw my husband abuse his own mother for years demanding money from her she even said to me once that she dreaded him coming to her door because he always wanted some thing. When we were about to split up she told me "I know he is no good but he is my son". Soon after we split he went back to live with her and she moved out of her own home for him and went to live in a council flat.  "Mother love or just plain stupid." Maybe if she had not given him every thing he wanted in the first place this might not have happened.